1. You believe in saying please and thank you. But you also believe in saying I’m sorry.
2. You don’t negotiate with your children. But you talk through your reasoning—without over explaining.
3. You do not believe in creative or phonetic spelling. And you show them how to use spell check and emphasize basic grammar.
4. You require your children to acknowledge others when they enter or leave a space or place. And you emphasize being an engaging but appropriate part of the conversation or action taking place, not merely quiet observers.
5. You expect your children to hold doors for others. But not to be doormats.
6. You do not allow electronics at the dinner table. But you engage your children in conversation.
7. You have clear consequences outlined for unacceptable behavior. But you make sure to identify feelings (both yours and theirs) and emphasize what you expect next time.
8. You make THEM do their homework and projects—not you. But you check it and are often involved in it getting done.
9. You want to know who their friends are, where they live, what their parents do and what’s interesting about them. And how to find them on fb, twitter and instagram; their XBOX LIVE id; and their cell numbers.
10. You expect them to take responsibility for their actions. And you advise them of the power of their words, too.
11. You expect to be heard when you speak. But in return, you listen. Intently.
12. You stress the importance of learning how to change a tire, balance a checkbook, start a fire and use a drill as life skills. Along with: dancing with reckless abandon, owning a quiet moment, getting in touch with your creative side, approaching challenges with strategy, and being comfortable in your own skin.
13. You instill the value of hard work. And you model honesty, empathy and compassion.
14. You expect them to rise to challenges and take pride in achievements. But you teach them to understand failures as learning opportunities.
15. You teach them that respect is earned. But show them that love is given generously.