We do it to ourselves. We don't even realize we're doing it most times. In our "be the best you yet" efforts, we kill ourselves trying to do it all. Only we can't. And when we can't, we often feel disappointed. But why? Because the real secret--that's not really a secret at all--is that NO ONE CAN.
Here's the good, bad and ugly I promised to deliver when writing this blog. My family has eaten take out food or dined out 4 nights out of the last seven. I should probably be ashamed to share that with you, but I'm not. I'm not because this isn't a standard in our house. I'm not because it's been a hellish week and being able to take cooking, prep and cleaning up after dinner out of the equation has helped just a little bit. I'm not because my children were actually the better for it this week because I was available to engage them when they needed my interaction.
Yes, there are tons of "quick and easy" recipes out there--I've even shared some with you, but the truth is sometimes having ingredients prepped to throw together into a "quick and easy" meal is too much to ask. That's where I was this week. I don't even have it in me to thaw meat out and slice some veggies, I admitted to myself. And forget about dusting and mopping. My energy had to be spent in other places this week. And you know what? It's okay. We do what we can, and then we have to accept that the rest will be left undone. And it's okay. The world will not stop spinning.
And I know I'm not alone. I know lots of great women who are hard on themselves when they can't deliver 100% of the time. But here's the thing: We just can't. We can't be all things to all people and function at 100% in each category.
The pressure to do more, be more, be better, faster, fitter, improved, more, MORE is exhausting. Sometimes I have to blow the whistle, ask for a time out and call it good. I'll be more, improved, fitter, faster, smarter, and better tomorrow. Right now-- in this moment--I'm calling it. Time out. I'm good.
I don't nail everything all of the time. I'm not always the best mother, wife, cook, housekeeper, employee, daughter, sister, friend, decorator, accountant, crafter, BUT... I do nail some things some of the time. And it's okay. We're all okay.